Oct 262012

Cosmo 6 ways to Ace a First Date, p34, November 2012

“Scott Porter reveals simple moves that will leave him dying to go out with you again.”

I suggest a few refinements of his points, but overall, not a bad article with some good thoughts.

Idea Scott Porter says A Real Guy says
Play a little hard to get Don’t call to confirm plans beforehand, you’ll seem too eager. Guys are neutral about this. I like a little flirting beforehand, but the guys say “no confirmation” isn’t an issue. However, that guys like to be confident that his girl has enough information to prepare for the date. It helps if the girl can coach the guy through general questions: what the feel of the restaurant is like, how to get there, etc. We don’t think about that stuff ahead of time.
Show up on time Being prompt is important. If a girl is late, she’s not into the date. Being more than 10 minutes late just seems inconsiderate and impolite. At that point, who cares if she’s into it, she just seems like a jerk. Its an unnecessary bad start to the night.
Talk about yourself It’s very cool if she shares something intimate, it shows security. Plus guys would rather listen to you talk. There’s a fine line between sharing something out of comfort (very good feeling) versus desperate for someone to talk to (very bad feeling). Go easy on the sharing on date one. By date two or three, the rapport is strong enough to “overshare” and it’s not a big deal.
Let him be a man If he wants to open the door or pay for the evening, let him. We want to feel like we can do these things for a woman. Guys absolutely love making their girl happy and comfortable. A big smile and “Thanks!” from a girl I’m into, is the best possible thing in the whole world.
Never fake a laugh Don’t force a laugh or feign interest in what he’s saying. Just be yourself. I disagree with this. Don’t be TOTALLY fake, but a few laughs can really help break the ice, and will lead to more authentic laughs later.
Make the date last longer Suggest hanging out a little longer, coffee or another drink. At that point, it’s cool if she takes charge – spontaneous is sexy. It’s very assuring when a girl suggests hanging out longer. This makes that “Should I kiss this girl?” decision much less daunting.